Two recent surveys, one published by Mumsnet and the other by the Archives of Sexual Behavior, reveal that younger people (those born after 1990) have less sex than their parents at a similar age, and even millennial couples do not. they have an especially passionate time.

In this technological age of online dating and relationship websites, have we lost the art of flirting, of reading other people’s body language, of being able to pick up on the subtleties and nuances that used to instinctively communicate when we get face to face? ?

These days, many of our relationships take place online before we meet in person. Yes, we may have discussed our thoughts and feelings, revealed a lot of personal information, but intimate things in person are often lacking until much later.

Need to be reminded of those intuitive skills? How sexy are you

– When it comes to being sexy, some people may feel apprehensive about being affectionate., wary of being perceived as guiding the other person by kissing, touching, and being tactile. They may enjoy being around and being loving, but they don’t want to be misinterpreted as wanting to go ‘all the way’. Does foreplay always have to lead to a fulfilling sexual relationship? Maybe you have a conversation from the beginning and say how you feel, that you do like the other person, but that some days you prefer to be close and loving, rather than too intimate. Sometimes that is enough on its own.

– Avoid letting your rejection of sex be taken personally making sure to be honest, but sensitive about her lack of desire for full sex. You may be tired, overworked, stressed, lacking interest, energy, or enthusiasm for many things right now. This may be acceptable for a time during busy or stressful periods, but if that disinterest continues indefinitely, it may be worth talking to your doctor or healthcare professional and getting a checkup.

– Keep the tactile element of your relationship alive. being romantic. Gestures, hugs, thoughtfulness, the desire to sit together, interest in each other’s news, smiling when they enter the room – these are all ways to keep the passion and sexy aspect of your relationship alive. A gentle touch as you pass each other, a natural and relaxed hand on the knee or shoulder, an affectionate gesture as you speak, all this shows the other person that you love and care for them, that you still have them. find attractive.

– Be complimentary to him or her whenever you can.. Being sexy is about being their number one fan, not blind or unrealistic about their abilities or attributes, but enthusiastic and loyal to them every time you speak. Praise, affection, and attraction are conveyed in the way you speak and serve to reinforce your connection and intimacy.

– Are some aspects of your partner unpleasant or unattractive?? They may need to pay more attention to their personal hygiene, taking a shower, brushing their teeth, trimming their toenails, putting more effort into grooming or dressing. A delicate conversation can be enough to solve these problems.

– Or it may be that your partner has changed, He has gained some weight and is less attracted to them. Is your conversation less stimulating lately? Too busy to read good books, keep up with current affairs? Have they lost interest in activities that they used to share such as walking, theater, music, going out to eat? Has your lifestyle gotten a little out of control?

– Talk, have a conversation, explain that you miss the mentally challenging part of your relationship, you miss the companionship and laughter that were such an important part of your relationship. If money or time influences this, try to find effective solutions; alternate babysitting responsibilities with another couple, cook a delicious meal at home where you both shower and dress attractively. Find your best solutions to problems.

– Has your partner become less attentive to your needs? Has sex become a superficial, routine activity or have things gotten a bit dated? It is not easy to feel sexy in an unstimulating environment and it may be time to find your voice and offer solutions and ideas on what you would like; take the initiative and make some suggestions. Your partner may share your opinion, but has been too nervous to say so, found it too difficult to discuss, has been hesitant to cause discomfort or offense.

– And there are some health conditions and medications. that affect a person’s libido and may warrant a medical check-up or lifestyle change. If lack of interest in sex, tiredness, and general personality change are constantly evident, perhaps suggest a visit to the family doctor or start a discussion about your general quality of life and how to maintain your current status. what impacts your relationship. It might be necessary to make some compromises or modifications.