When we were young, we set fortune and career goals and plunged into busy lives. However, as a parent, the happiness and future of our children are at the heart of our long-term plan. Whether we should educate our children to become good learners with intelligence or good personalities and happiness will not be an easy question for parents.

Since society has been changing as dramatically as today, a person who only studies well and has deep professional knowledge is not guaranteed success. This is demonstrated by thousands of cases of dismissal and unemployment each year, although many of those people are university graduates, some with master’s degrees and even doctorates, and scholarship holders. Therefore, if parents are only inclined to encourage or force their children to learn well, it is certainly not the right thing to do. Not to mention, the more knowledge accumulates in the minds of children without care and love, the greater the risk of children suffering from depression and mental trauma.

Many research studies and observations by educators, psychologists, and neuroscientists around the world have shown that the most important contributors to children’s future success are non-cognitive skills: personality characteristics formed early in life. . Research studies have also shown that the quality of life, the care and love of the family, especially the care and love of parents, from childhood are the foundation for forming the personality of children in the future. In the process of growing up, children need to be trained to acquire stamina, mental strength, inquisitive learning, and tenacity to pursue their dreams.

Therefore, parents should become close friends who accompany their children under all circumstances in order to timely understand the children’s thoughts, emotions and expectations, and they themselves should set good examples for their children to follow. If children stumble or fail, encourage them to learn to accept, not to give up, and to keep standing up to achieve their own goals and dreams. Children in general have faced many challenges in the maturation process. And every time they give in to a difficulty, their self-confidence and resilience greatly diminishes. If parents do not encourage, help and accompany them in a timely manner, children will isolate themselves and keep too much for themselves.

Don’t put too many expectations on your children because doing so will put a lot of pressure on them. Don’t take your friends’ academic achievements to compare with your children’s, and don’t take children’s test results as fun and achievements to brag about. Let’s give your children a peaceful childhood and let them live their own lives and dreams.