Staring, staring, or staring too much at women will tend to generate female resistance and aversion. It makes women feel self-conscious, which is something they often resent. On the contrary, although a woman looking at a man can make him feel flattered and cheerful, happy to be alive, attractive, etc., it is usually different for women who are used to all men looking at them all the time, for the whole day. non-stop, every day, even at 7am while they have no makeup on and are just trying to get some milk.

A common justification for looking at women is often overtly expressed as: “Yes, but women want to be looked at, otherwise they would not dress the way they do.” Clearly, this is only a half-truth and an excuse. On the one hand, most people, including women, “walk and speak contradictions.” Internal conflicts plague most individuals to an astonishing degree, for example, most stress is consistent with some type of internal conflict. Therefore, a woman generally wants men to check her out and at the same time feels self-conscious or even “scared” when they do so. Therefore, it is better to briefly ‘look’ or ‘look’ at women, rather than ‘look’ or ‘look at’ them.

I often recommend students only brief glances of appreciation (and no more) unless they intend to walk up to her and strike up a conversation. In addition to being aware of the fact that women are in conflict over being “watched,” his willingness to refrain from having to “look at” all women automatically places him in the category of high-status man.

On the other hand, low-status men are the ones who constantly need to “check everything” around them, throughout the day (eg, women, cars, people, clothing stores, “shiny things”). They remind me of my kitty, whose furry little head is almost constantly ‘wagging’ from side to side, as if to say, “Look at the bug! Wow, look at that leaf in the wind! My God, Daddy! Daddy! ” .. FATHER !! Did you see that butterfly ?! Wow. This is amazing, dad! “This” snapping “behavior is fine when it comes to being a kitten, but as a man you are expected to be much less reactive than this.

The way to become less emotionally reactive (and therefore of a higher status and more spiritually aware) is to develop what I often call “the Witness gaze.” All the “things” in this world, including women, are not really that amazingly exciting and wonderful. You’ve already seen a million “pretty butts” and “pretty faces” and “big boobies,” haven’t you? The sooner a man can get over his enthusiasm for the little things in life, the better. The less the shoulders, neck, and head move, the better. “The less you ‘do’, the better you will be.”

High-status men don’t need to “check everything” all the time, they don’t even bother to stare at a beautiful woman for more than two seconds. Rather than emotionally hyper-focus on details, they prefer to be peacefully with the Whole of their surroundings. The way to “spot” a high status man (and a spiritually evolved being) is to notice that they tend to be in your peripheral vision most of the time. Unimpressed by the details of life, they are usually aware of the situation, the environment, or the total context. In addition, they do not make endless comments or useless babbling about everything they witness or observe. Silence is highly valued and respected for its own sake.

Living this way easily leads to an impressively high state of consciousness in a short period of time, and also serves to increase worldly status and even sex appeal. It also transcends emotion, which is later replaced by an undertone of Silent joie de vivre. In addition, it leads to the ability to maintain a soft, open and gentle visual gaze for long periods of time. Women tend to want to be around men in this state, and will tell their girlfriends that “he had the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen.”

Stripped of pretensions, value judgments, social paranoia (fear of rapprochement) and defensiveness (pride), living in the state of “witness gaze” is a fundamental key to the “womanizer” and even to life itself. Meeting and dating attractive women becomes almost “too easy” due to the incredible glow of unconditional love, as well as the surprising rarity of this laid-back state, condition, and demeanor (about 0.4% of humans). In this state, one is said to be “in the world, but not of it.” In particular, it leads to states where one feels “mushroom high” naturally and without side effects. (Really. I would not exaggerate or lie about such matters).

Thank you for reading.

Many blessings,

Stephane hemon