“No, we can’t go on like this.” If you say or hear this phrase many times in relation to your most of everything or their mouth, it means that something is not right. The relationship is certainly not going from strength to strength and, with each passing day, sure bad habits caused your union to just … wither away! So that this does not happen, here are several tips: avoid the 9 mistakes that undermine any relationship!
1. Not sharing quality time
If there is something essential for a relationship to work, it is the time you spend together. Dedicating part of your life to your friends and family is completely normal, but you should not neglect your partner. It is important that you find the perfect balance. Also, contrary to what many couples think, watching television together, for example, does not mean that they are in fact spending time together and enjoying time together. Marital interaction is important in the dynamics of love.
2. Let the charm fade
As the relationship progresses in time, the compliments fade until they are practically nonexistent. It is true that the relationship has grown, each one knows the best and the worst of the other and they are more than sure of the future and the path they will have to travel together, but this does not mean that they do not have to. Remembering certain things to each other – like that color that suits you or how beautiful your green eyes are – little gifts that help make the day go by more easily and, of course, with a smile from ear to ear. The opposite will only cause damage, even if it is small, in the heart of the couple and will make the routine become a sad companion for both.
3. Not knowing how to listen
Communication is vital in a happy relationship. But understand that communicating is not just talking. It is also passive listening. It is essential and fundamental. However, your partner often needs your opinion, so passive listening is not nodding, nodding, nodding! Focus on the moment and dedicate that time to your partner. Poor or deficient communication creates conflicts that are difficult to resolve and overcome.
5. Permanent complaints
Constructive criticism is always welcome, not only in a love relationship, but also in all kinds of relationships. But be careful! They can easily cross the “line” and go from constructive criticism to constant malicious criticism. This is something that wears down any relationship, rather than making it grow and evolve in a healthy and strong way.
6. Try to mold the other in our image and likeness.
The couple does not have to be or do what you want! There are always certain characteristics in the other that we can only accept, without trying to shape our path. Focus on improving your behavior and temperament and that will be a much more attractive incentive than the force of stubbornness. And so it may be that most of everything changes for you and becomes, in your eyes, even better.
7. Avoid problems and arguments
Discuss, debate and debate. Is it something you do regularly? The solution is dialogue. Many couples make the grave mistake of pretending to agree on a particular issue when, in fact, they do not. By not talking about the problems, the dreaded arguments are avoided. This attitude is not good for your relationship, as, over time, this will cause resentment to grow in you in a visible and uncontrolled way. In fact, the best thing to do is talk. Face your problems and differences with maturity and share your feelings with each other, without reservation.
8. Promises, promises
The foundation of any relationship is trust, so promise. Promise what you can deliver. Be realistic and careful. Lie wrinkles delivery. Wrinkle love.
9. Testing peer loyalty
Are you sure that already crossed your mind? Don’t put the love of others to the test! The loyalty of the other, the loyalty of the other … will affect your confidence, the confidence of the person next to you and will not solve any problem.
Stop this kind of behavior! Avoid this type of behavior! And believe that your relationship with your partner will improve with the application of this advice!