“My wife wants to leave me,” the man said, feeling as if his whole world was falling apart. Unfortunately, that man is you, isn’t it? His wife is the one who has decided that instead of trying to work things out, she would rather pack up and end the marriage. It hurts so much to hear this from the woman you love. You had visions of the two of you growing old together and sharing special moments with your grandchildren years from now. However, it seems that his wife has other plans. Is there a way to bridge the gap between the two of you and bring it closer again? If you want to save your marriage and support your wife, you have to put every ounce of effort you have into it. Your marriage is not going to fix itself and you are the only man for the job.

Once you’ve gotten over the initial shock of knowing your wife wants to leave you, you need to get to work. For most men, the hard part of marriage has to do with communication. It’s usually a skill that women are better at. He already knows because he’s probably been in an argument with his wife where everything he says is scrutinized and scrutinized, while she always seems to say the right thing. It’s hard and it’s one of those things that can set you back because you feel like you’re just not good at it. You have to find the strength to try to communicate with your wife again now. You need to know what she feels and what she thinks if you hope to keep her from leaving. Tell her that you want to talk and know that you will listen and not interrupt her. Then, encourage her to tell you what is bothering her and why she feels compelled to give up on her marriage.

Once you understand why your wife made the decision she did, you can begin to address the issues. You have to consider what she’s feeling and what she’s getting in the way of her feeling fulfilled in the marriage. Work on the things that you know you can improve within yourself. If he told you that she feels neglected, spend more time with her and shower her with attention. If she feels like you’re not listening to her enough, make sure you talk to her every day and really listen to her while you’re at it.

To save her marriage she must expose her own emotions. You have to show your wife that you love her deeply and that you need her in your life. Don’t be afraid of losing your composition and allowing your deepest emotions to surface. Her wife needs to see that from you, as she will help her understand the depth of her commitment to making the marriage work.