Man’s biggest problem is, in fact, his testosterone, and women who act and dress like “whores” are perhaps his biggest weakness. So why do men seem to want “whores”? It is because they can provide you with guilt-free sex. You see, your testosterone gives you an infinite amount of sex drive, which is why you feel incredibly guilty. Furthermore, he is paranoid that the woman he respects and loves will judge him for his animal nature.
In fact, women are very prone to being too proud, especially in this regard. To make matters worse, they often use their sexuality to manipulate what they know and understand to be man’s greatest weakness, namely desire. When women become “attractive,” it leads not only to pride, but to a certain “taste” of pride called “self-righteousness.” I mean, they love to manipulate man’s vulnerable weaknesses and then turn around and say things like, “Aren’t men horrible? Men are dogs!” (We humans secretly love to feel that our morality is superior to the morality of other people.) So why do men love such completely useless and fake things like high heels, makeup, “fake boobs”, navel and nose piercings, false eyelashes, false nails and the like?
Paradoxically, it is because men feel so guilty about their animal nature (testosterone, desire) and as a result of this guilt ‘coloring’ and distorting their perception, they don’t know how to “read” women. Men are pretty blind. That is, they do not know if a woman wants sex or not, or they do not know what ‘taste’ or style of sex she wants, or when she wants it, to what extent, etc., and this whole area. it can be very confusing. Add to this the well-known fact that women often deliberately send “mixed signals” and tend to be generally incongruous and fraught with internal conflict. The human condition is equally complex, frustrating, and very confusing on both sides. Most of these problems are not going to change anytime soon, therefore it is best to simply accept these limitations as an integral part of the human condition.
Again, as men, we often simply cannot know when (or if) our woman wants sex. So false nails, hairpieces, lace knickers, super short skirts, perfume, high heels, and ‘bleached blonde’ dyed hair (or even a wig) send us a very clear signal of where we are going, “OK, obviously. wants. “Therefore, it is not so much that we want” whores “, but rather that we want women who want and clearly enjoy sexuality. A “whore” is more like a “loose” or promiscuous woman, but deep down, men generally prefer a woman who dresses and behaves like the “whore”, but who is not a true “whore”. For me, there may be “sleeping whores” as well as “conscious whores”, so to speak.
Women who are “asleep” (ie, unconscious and inconsiderate) are the ones who selfishly dress sexy to “get” things from men (eg, attention, validation, and especially power of manipulation). They tend to exaggerate; they dress too much and give the impression of being squalid. Regardless, men want sex because it’s guilt-free (she clearly wants it), but they don’t want to have relationships with those women because they see them as untrustworthy.
On the other hand, a “conscious whore” is a self-aware and self-respecting type of woman who understands that men are innocently programmed to respond favorably to “fake things” like nails and eyelashes, and therefore she gives these gifts to her man. , but not all men. She understands why her man loves false eyelashes, knee-highs, and miniskirts (again, that eases her unconscious guilt and worry), and feels compassion for him. A conscious couple in this sense is able to accept the animal nature of the other and laugh at the stupidity of human life together, without judging or condemning. It is better to work with nature than to resist, reject and have endless opinions about how things “should” be.
Compare this to the average “asleep” woman, for example, who will “get dressed” when she goes out and then “get dressed” when she is home with her man. This hurts your feelings for obvious reasons. It should be the other way around: dress well when you go out, but dress incredibly sexy when you are at home. I often recommend that women become more of a “conscious whore” in a way of speaking, that way they are subcommunicating with their man, “I may be that dream girl, but for your eyes only.”
It’s not that we want answers, it’s that we want you to send us unequivocal “yes” signals when it comes to sex. Fake boobs, a little makeup, a navel piercing, and high heels are so effective and powerful because they remove all confusion, doubt, and most of all, unconscious guilt. We see our woman wearing those things for us, and we say, “Okay, she definitely accepts my animal nature and she definitely wants sex.” Therefore, it tells the male brain that it is okay to continue.
A woman who dresses up and acts like a “porn star” to us has a profoundly healing effect because she is subcommunicating, “I love him, I love him” and is also saying, “I will have fun even if you are not.” a great performer “and, more importantly, she says,” I love your masculinity and I love my femininity. “
Perhaps one of the worst experiences a man can have is discovering that the woman he just finished enjoying sex with did not really, truly and consistently want it, or was not enjoying it for some reason. Even an experience like this is enough to traumatize us for life, because it hits us right at our most vulnerable weak spots, that is, testosterone-based guilt and worry that we have hurt you because we are so physically superior to you.
Again, men are a bit “retarded” due to our testosterone and unconscious issues, therefore we just need you to send us crystal clear signals that practically scream, “I want it!” We’re never completely sure whether our woman wants it “or not, and we don’t like to” make a move “with you unless we know for sure you’ll be receptive. Honey, I wish you’d dress like a whore” because we’re ashamed that even we want this in the first place. We fear that they will judge and reject us, frankly, because we are men.
Very often, we men want you to wear “fake things” and “whore outfits” paradoxically because we are good men. It is not always because we are evil and narcissistic, but we need you to send clear signals because we are very considerate. We are often overly considerate, in the sense that we don’t want it to feel degraded or used. Once again, we have this testosterone problem and to blame; we worry about hurting you; this is the male condition that needs to be understood and accepted.
Testosterone is a powerful energy and as such it is difficult to handle. With this energy, we can lift a car on our shoulders and throw the damn thing off a cliff if we want to. We can build bridges, houses and roads for you, and we can also go to war and protect our country with this incredible energy. To protect our woman, we will gladly kill a thousand men with our bare hands if necessary. Yet at the same time, we often don’t know our own strength and we can end up hurting the woman we love. This energy also gives us a sex drive that is completely irrational and illogical and irrational, just as your female emotions tend to be.
Just as a woman can be truly happy if she meets a man who understands that his emotionalities are not personal or “serious”, a man can also be truly happy if he can find a woman who knows how to send him clear “I want” I love it, signals when dressing, acting and speaking, and basically oozes sexuality. Unfortunately, men do not understand women emotionally and socially, just as women generally do not understand men at the testosterone level. most dating and relationship problems.
Men are afraid to have this kind of conversation with you because we don’t want you to judge us or go on a ‘morally higher’ ego trip about it. A woman is not ‘morally superior’ just because men get ‘turned on’ by fake hair wigs or push-up bras. The reason we love these things is because they let us know that you are ready for sex. The last thing we want to do is hurt you, so we tend not to take too much risk. We are so used to feeling judged that we have developed a numbness. Our testosterone has made us all behave very silly, so when it comes to sex, we are embarrassed to tell you what we want. Usually we only repress this side of ourselves. The animal nature of man is a powerful force, and only a small percentage of men and women understand it, and even fewer dominate it and make it work for the relationship rather than against the relationship.
On a similar note, the main reason we like women who appear to be less intelligent or act like Marylin Monroe is because criticism is often mistaken for intelligence. In reality, however, criticism and prosecution do not indicate intelligence at all, quite the contrary. Therefore, men are so used to dealing with women who have negative, critical, ‘morally superior’ attitudes, and we are so used to dealing with ‘victim mentalities’ and paranoid and highly defensive women who love to “feel wounds “. the moment we’ve developed a kind of numbness where we don’t tell women what we want, what we like, and what we think because “we just don’t want to go there.” We prefer not to hurt your feelings and be ashamed. It’s easier to just “not go there” and secretly watch some porn.
It’s not that we want less intelligent women, but rather, we don’t want to be surrounded by women who are critical, defensive, paranoid, critical, ‘morally superior’ and the like. These types of women are often thought of as “smart,” but they are actually very negative, puritanical, cynical, and annoying. They love to feel angry (and especially “hurt”), and men often make the mistake of blaming ourselves for our woman’s shortcomings.
Marylin Monroe was incredibly attractive to men, not because she was of inferior intelligence, but because she had no opinions. He was smiling all the time, he was cheerful and he laughed at our boring jokes. It made us feel attractive and eased our “man guilt” by seemingly deeply embracing our animal nature. So it is not so much that we want an intellectually inferior woman to feel superior to her, but rather that (men of integrity) want women who can playfully “play dumb” because that makes us feel trustworthy; it is sensed that a stubborn woman does not trust us and does not really want us. The intellect doesn’t really serve our relationships. The mind is excellent for solving mathematical problems, but the Silent Mind, which is free from opinions, leads to true love. I call this state “divine stupidity” and it is an important clue when it comes to “picking up” as well as dating and relationships. (Makes life extremely easy).
Many blessings, Stephane Hemon
